Saturday, May 15, 2010

Just Me Being Me

So many topics swim around in my mind, and sometimes I just want to write out my thoughts. I love blogging because we can share our thoughts with others and maybe help someone along the way that we many never get the privilege to meet in person. I love blogging because I've learned so much and met some really super cool people while doing it! So many on here inspire me to take care of my family in ways I never dreamed of before blogging. I'm an only child who grew up with the best example of a Proverbs 31 woman. My mother was a stay-at-home mom, who did all the cooking (Dad bbq'd and in the later years tinkered with many small appliances he bought off of the tv - lol), cleaning, laundry and taking care of little old me. Fast food was a rare treat, as was going out to dinner. My daddy was in the military, so I do remember going to the NCO and Officer's clubs for dinner occasionally. The majority of the time, she cooked and baked from scratch. Being an only child and a little on the spoiled side, I didn't turn out to be very domestically inclined. If I didn't seem that interested in cooking, she sweetly would tell me to go play. Needless to say, my hubby didn't exactly get Julia Child. Instead my other married friends were bragging about the wonders of microwaving and I quickly followed suit. I did at least pick up baking from scratch, because my mother would always shun box cakes and store bought sweets. I knew better than to go there! lol I also loved to look at cookbooks and later learned to make many good meals that way. The Lord knew I needed domestic guidance after my mother passed, so he sent me a sweet friend named Theresa. We knew each other from church functions and were reconnected when she slipped me her phone number at my mom's funeral. I later learned from her that through a dream, my mother spoke to her and told her to be there for me. Isn't God awesome??? I learned cooking tips, and how to care for my children and home the way a godly woman should. Because of her and her husband, we were motivated to foster children and eventually adopt. I learned how to raise a big family through her guidance. She adopted a daughter and also has four birth children and one stepson. Unfortunately, many changes in our lives separated us once I moved away. We still talk but aren't as close as we used to be. I still think of her often and incorporate things that she's taught me. Recently we've started texting each other and sending messages through Myspace. I hope to see her soon when Deondra graduates next month.

I'm not a perfect person by no means. I'm definitely not trying to be someone that I'm not or trying to keep up with other families. Most of the time I'm overwhelmed by the clutter and laundry, and exhausted from work and chauffeuring kids around. My kids can be a handful and a half, and things don't get done when they should. But I love the Lord and try to live the way He wants me to live. Even though Momma's gone, I have a wonderful Pastor's wife who inspires me to live as a Proverbs 31 woman. I also have an awesome godmother I can get advice from, who is just a phone call away in Atlanta. There are days that I want to throw in the towel, but I have 7 people who rely on me daily and I can't ever let them down. Sometimes it's lonely and rough, but it's rewarding and I wouldn't trade it for the world. It's my fabulous life and I thank God for it!!!


  1. Im a newbie to your blog,,..only child and with six children? I too was an only an was blessed with four children then I had to stop the train. The DH and I were like that is enough for us. I love your post!! I never had to do any type of chores an now it's soo hard for me. I pray everyday for the Lord's guidance to help me. God Bless

  2. Hello Chondra. Now that is definitely a great way to vent. We are always hear to listen and if I don't show up at times, just knock on my door and say, "Hey Gloria, come read my post please." Tee Hee. I think you do wonders with your family and you are right, they need you and you will be there because God helps you to be the person that you are. Loving and kind and just a dear person.
    Take care Chondra, thinking of you.

  3. You have a beautiful family! I was an only child too and my mom was a great cook, but she didn't really enjoy cooking that much and I never cared to learn how. I wish I had a friend who would inspire me to learn more about that kind of stuff :) I love that she had a dream about being there for you. That's so neat!

  4. Hello, I found your blog from over at Valencia's Blog :)
    That is a BEAUTIFUL Photo :)
    Cowtown Tx cool, Im an hour from there lol

  5. Thank you so much for this wonderful reminder. Have a great week in the Lord,



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